I’m not sure if there’s an actual term for these, but I call them reactionary nos.
A reactionary no is when your first reaction, no matter what, is to say “no.”
I had a friend who would give reactionary nos because he was incredibly kind, but was afraid of being stepped on and taken advantage of. Saying yes does not mean you’ve lost. Immediately saying no isn’t going to make you the boss of every situation.
It could be because you need a little time to think about it. If you need extra time or more information to make a decision, you can always say maybe. You can always ask questions. You don’t need to shut down the entire conversation. If you give a reactionary no, the other person may not want to revisit whatever you were talking about. It just creates unnecessary negativity and arguments.
“Hey do you want to do something Thursday?”
You could have said “Maybe,” or “What were you thinking of doing Thursday?”
Instead of immediately saying no, try to say maybe.
You can always say no at the end.
When it comes to fitness, do your own research.
Make sure everything you’re doing fits your body and your lifestyle, and goes along with your goal. If your goal is to lose a ton of weight, it doesn’t make sense for you to never do cardio and drink a ton of mass gainer. It just doesn’t make sense.
If you’re taking supplements, know what you’re putting in your body and why. If you go around the gym and ask about supplements, everybody will name something different and be like “This is the best one. This is the supplement you should take,” and most of them won’t even be able to tell you why.
I get protein that’s almost 100% just that protein, and doesn’t hurt my stomach, but you might have different needs from your protein. Flavour might be really important to you. You might be vegan, and my protein isn’t. There are so many things you need to consider.
I had a friend that had a goal to get strong and big, but was following his friend’s workout and his friend’s goal was to get really toned. Obviously, my friend was disappointed with his progress, until he changed his workout to suit his personal goals.
I’ve met a ton of people who find a fit friend, then blindly follow their workouts and what supplements they take and it doesn’t always fit their body or their goals. I don’t want that to happen to you. Do your own research. Make the best decisions for you, your body, and your lifestyle.